When we make a judgement all we are doing is narrowing our view of what is happening. Judgement is something we often cannot help but what we go on to do with the judgement is our own choice. We can choose to feed the judgement with further thoughts, or we can allow it to pass through our mind without giving it any attention. The more attention you give your judgements the more permanent and habitual they become in your mind. The key isn’t to stop judging it’s too become aware of the process of judgement so you can prevent it taking over your thoughts. In the long term by no longer feeding our judgement we actually begin to judge less as time goes on.
When you judge a piece of music you are no longer listening to the music you are simply listening to your opinion and judgement. But here’s the thing, that music exists without that judgement, if you want you can remove the judgement and listen to the music for what is simply is.
What does non-judging mean to me?
Do I judge too quickly?
Am I able to judge less?
Through non-judgement comes acceptance. Being able to accept your reality is a true skill that requires time and patience. Accepting is the art of not lying to yourself. Because in truth we can’t lie to ourselves, we can try to trick and manipulate our thoughts as much as possible, but this is just wasted time because eventually we have to accept the truth. Once we begin to accept ourselves and our situation, we make space for ourselves to flourish and grow into who we truly are. In time this allows us to become much happier and more comfortable in our own skin.
What does acceptance mean to me?
Am I an accepting person?
Is there something I am not accepting about myself?
Can I become more accepting of others?
Patience is a fundamental part of our practise and life. Sometimes the trick with patience is to step back and reflect on the need to rush or why we are becoming impatient. Once we have identified the reason behind our impatience it may become apparent that the feeling of rushing isn’t actually necessary, and we have just tricked ourselves into becoming impatient.
Have patience with yourself and with the music. Life is not a race even though it can often feel like it. In the end we all come and return from the same place.
What does patience mean to me?
Am I a patient person?
Am I patient with myself?
Am I patient with others?
Where in my life can I find time for more patience?
Beginner’s mind is a beautiful way of looking at the world. Imagine the first time you saw an enormous tree or a beautiful flower, the very first time was so exciting because it was new and interesting and so full of wonder. But after a while that feeling faded, that amazing tree simply became another tree, and that flower became simply another flower. This doesn’t have to be the case though! If we look at that tree as if it were the very first time we saw it we can allow ourselves to reignite that feeling of wonder. We can live our life experiencing the wonder and magic that things are. Imagine how a child walks through the world, everything is new to them and as a result they are in constant wonder and awe. I invite you to channel your inner child and walk through our music.
What does beginner’s mind mean to me?
How can I adopt a beginner’s mind more into my daily life?
Having trust in ourselves can sometimes be the hardest type of trust there is. It is important though that we learn to trust ourselves and trust others. If we live our life fearing trust, we can become isolated and over worked. However, if we learn to become more trusting with ourselves and others, we can become more comfortable, more relaxed and more easy-going throughout our daily lives.
What does trust mean to you?
Who do you trust and why do you trust them?
Do you trust yourself?
Can you become more trusting in nature?
Our world has moved to a place where we constantly feel like we have to be striving higher and moving quickly onto the next task without reflecting on all the good work we have done to get to where we are. Practising non-striving isn’t about getting rid of our goals and targets it’s about being able to fulfil those targets without the looming pressure that we need to get onto the next task. Non-striving teaches us to enjoy the task we are doing and to be able to reflect and say well-done to ourselves at the end of it.
What does non-striving mind mean to me?
Am I constantly striving onto the next task?
Do I take time to appreciate all the hard work I put into completing my previous task(s)?
Letting go can be difficult but it is usually always extremely rewarding. It is not always about the big things as well, how much time throughout the day do we carry around meaningless thoughts and emotions that just take up valuable mental capacity? Through awareness and taking time to be truthful to ourselves we can learn what we need to let go of. Just like tidying our attic, we may at first think we need to keep onto an old box of thoughts or feelings, but in reality we would be much better off letting them go. I invite you to have a clean out of your mental attic.
What does letting go mean to me?
Do I find letting go easy?
Gratitude is discussed a lot in mindfulness and that is because there are countless studies about the proven benefits of gratitude. Being grateful isn’t just about being grateful for the most expensive item you own we can actually be grateful for just about anything. Here are a few examples off the top of my head:
We can find countless things on a day-to-day basis to be grateful for and taking time to think of what we are grateful for does wonders for our wellbeing.
What does gratitude mean to me?
Do I find it easy to think of reasons to be grateful?
Can I start to become more grateful for the small things in my life?
We often think of generosity as an external idea, it usually involves us giving something away to someone else – like our time or money and there’s nothing wrong with that but as well as an external idea we must counterbalance it with the internal idea, do we ever take time to be generous to ourselves? How can we be generous to ourselves? This whole article is all about how to improve your wellbeing, so you have already taken the time to give yourself a little bit of generosity and this is very important. There is no limit on our generosity, so make sure you save a little bit for yourself. I invite you to be generous with your generosity.
What does generosity mean to me?
Am I a generous person to others?
Am I a generous person to myself?
How could I be more generous to myself?